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SOME QUESTIONS:

• How do you feel when an office co-worker is promoted instead of you. Now he is your supervisor!
• How do you feel when your neighbor is remodeling his house, adding on rooms, and practically doubling the size of his place. But you don't have the space to add on - or the money!
• How do you feel when the person in line right in front of you won the big door prize, and you think you were there first!
• How do you feel at a fancy party when someone else is wearing the same thing you are, and you think they're getting more compliments!

SOME ANSWERS:
One of the really great things about living with Torah is you have ways to understand and cope with challenging life experiences.

Regarding the questions we posed, the answer to all of them, and the way to cool off explosive emotions is to sincerely be happy for the success of others Jews.

The Jewish People, Yidden, "Klal Yisrael", "Am Yisrael", or whatever you call us are one entity, but subdivided into lots of separate bodies, for reasons G-d understands.

But, at our highest spiritual origin we are unified. Another Jew's good fortune is certainly a reason for you to be happy. Say to yourself "I'm glad this good thing exists in Klal Yisrael."

And, don't imagine that someone's success came at your expense, for it's a known principle of existence that G-d gives everyone exactly what they need when it is essential for their lives.

Another "G-d rule" regarding our existence is "If it Could be better, it Would be better". G-d does not hold back goodness from a person if there is merit in that person.

Our challenges are gifts to help us grow. So judge everyone, and every situation favorably. And to fortify your relationship with G-d, "judge" G-d favorably since He is the writer and director of this story called existence.

DEEPER ANSWERS:
The notion of "judging" G-d favorably means we are firm and unshifting in our Emunah (faith based on knowledge) and Bitachon (ability to act based on that Emunah), that G-d knows how to run His world better than we do.

To use a metaphor, if G-d is the "author" of creation, we're just characters on the page. Can a character have any knowledge of the author who wrote him in to existence? Absurd.

But, since G-d "sees" all existence from a vantage point outside the system of creation, He can orchestrate all world events as He continually creates the system. (the mind boggles as it tries to grasp this).

Now we can see how Jewish Unity is more that a social or political cause. Our one-ness as a people actually refers to our spiritual origins.

So, if, Dear Fellow Jew, you can cry for the cruel suffering we endured in the Holocaust, and feel deeply what it must have been like, it means you somehow relate to those Jews who perished at the time. You feel what they felt, to some degree. You understand there are deeper aspects to the Jewish people that bind us through the generations.

Today, right now, uproot the jealousy that could trickle in to your heart when a co-worker is promoted instead of you, or when your neighbor renovates his house, or when someone else wins the prize, or when someone else gets a compliment.

Be happy for the success of others because their good fortune brings simcha to the whole nation.